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How To Just Say No I have had lots of practice saying no lately. My neighborhood seems to be the hot spot for those wanting to clean my carpets. I have my own carpet cleaner so I don’t need the service. I do listen to their spiel though, because I can only imagine how hard it must be to go from door to door and face rejection. After I listen for a few seconds and they start asking questions, I answer this way so as not to hurt their feelings, but to put a stop to them wasting their time and mine: “Thank you for stopping by today, but I have a carpet cleaner of my own so I don’t need you to clean for me. I hope you have a profitable day and good luck at your next stop.” And, of course, I say this with a smile. I try to think of how I would feel if someone talked rudely to me and slammed the door in my face. We say yes to people because most of us are people pleasers. When we get too much on our plate and can’t continue with all the yeses we have committed to, we feel guilty. Both parties suffer. Don’t try to do everything. Excelling at a few things is better than being just average at many things. Be polite and firm in saying no. Wishy-washy responses won’t gain you respect. Saying “I’ll try to be there” is giving yourself an excuse to avoid a commitment. The person planning the event would rather know you are not going to attend than not know one way or the other. When are asked by your boss to do an urgent new task, remind the boss that you are working on other projects already identified as top priority. Ask for help in deciding where the new task should fall on the list of priorities. Keep your answer short. A simple “I’m sorry, I’m not available that night” may suffice. Let the situation dictate whether a longer response is necessary. |
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